'Girl Corner Talk' with Sarah Adeleke - How to Talk about a Past Relationship with Your Partner {Episode 1}
Welcome to Girl Corner Talk, I'm so elated to be your host. (P.S if you're a guy I think you should give us some privacy now, we don't need you in our business, lol). I've got so much in stock for you girls on this season of Girl Corner Talk.
Let's get right to it, In a relationship, there comes a time when your new lover asks about your past lovers. Find out how to talk about past relationships the right way. Past relationships are tricky affairs.
What starts off as a fun round of twenty questions can turn into an icy chill in no time if you aren’t careful.
Finding out more about past relationships is never a good thing, but like all inquisitive fools, we go looking for dirt in our lover’s past.
And when we do find the dirt, we dirty our hands and are left with a stench that lingers for a long time after the discovery.
Talking about exes and past lovers may feel like a bag of bricks lifted off your back, but it may come back to haunt you again though your present lover.
If your new lover has popped the past relationships question to you, and you find no way of avoiding it with a smile or a wink, perhaps you should learn how to talk about past relationships and make sure you don’t find yourself in sticky ground by giving the wrong answers.
I'd be sharing few tips with you which you can easily apply when this issue comes up in your relationship {This is a lengthy post so I'd be sharing just 2 tips with you today, then the rest in the other parts of Episode 1}
1. The do’s and don’ts of confessions
First of all, you have to understand that all of us have a past. At times you may find yourself in a relationship with someone who’s not dated many people. When you go out with someone who really doesn’t have a sexual past as exciting or brag worthy as yours, you really have to think twice about telling all your secrets.
You’re with this special person today because of the coincidences and relationships you’ve experienced before. And you really don’t have to feel bad about your extensive list of past lovers once you’ve settled down with someone else, but you do have to be careful about what you say to your new lover.
Remember, you can still tell the truth to your new lover without going into explicit details.
2. Talking about the details
Even if your sweet love asks you to talk about your feelings and wants explicit graphic details of bedtime activities with your ex, don’t do that. Things could only go from bad to worse. If your ex lover used to call you “tongue twister” , “mind blower” or “Ms. Perky”, just avoid mentioning that tiny detail. It’s not necessary, and it is definitely not going to help.
And if you’ve had a few one night stands or even made out with a total stranger, you’re on dangerous grounds.
If you don’t say anything, there’s always the odd chance that your partner may find out anyways. On the other hand, even if you’re a great lover, the fact that you had a few one night stands or experienced a sex-with-a-stranger fantasy, will inadvertently change the way your new partner looks at this new relationship. Really, unless someone’s had a one night stand themselves, can they ever understand the real circumstances that led to the sex in the backseat or would they just think you’re a horny perv who just can’t wait to stuff or get stuffed?
When it comes to talking about the intimate details, skip the parts where you went sowing your wild oats or let anything that walks enter your doorway. It’ll change your partner’s perspective about the relationship. But do bring the topic up someday, when you’re in a seasoned relationship and have built enough trust for your partner to overlook your wild earlier days.(to be continued)
Till next time, i remain your ever amiable host, XO❤
